TAPPING 4 (FEELING It’s Not Safe to Change)

There are many times in our lives when we come to a necessary transition point, whether it’s the beginning of a relationship, a new job, or even moving to a new city. While these can certainly be exciting moments, they also can bring with them a great deal of confusion and anguish. Thankfully, Tapping is a wonderful way to address these nagging feelings so that they don’t hinder our progress.

Here’s an extended Tapping script to help you do just that.  “The Tapping Solution: A Revolutionary System for Stress-Free Living.” It addresses those underlying, often hidden emotions that come with big changes in our lives.

Tapping varies for everyone: some people just need to do a few rounds to clear the negative emotions that have them all wound up; others need a few more rounds. Whichever the case is for you, it’s always great to go deeper and longer. As you do, take note of any unexpected thoughts or feelings that arise. These can often be used to help you clear your negative attachment to incidents or emotions buried in your unconscious mind that may have been tripping you up without you even knowing it!

As I explain in the book, it’s always good to start with a “check-in” phrase to determine if this particular issue is something you need to work on. The check-in phrase for this routine is it’s not safe to change.

What does saying this phrase bring up for you? Rate your discomfort on a scale from 0 to 10, with 10 being “absolutely true” and 0 being “not at all true.” If your truth level is a 5 or more, then this is definitely an issue you want to tackle.

This routine will help you shed the discomfort surrounding the change you’re considering or the one that’s already underway. In essence, it will allow you to flow accordingly with what’s happening, instead of sinking further into the state of resistance that’s been fraying your nerves. Start at the karate chop point:

Karate Chop: Even though it isn’t safe for me to change, I’m accepting how I feel.
Karate Chop: Even though I won’t be able to keep myself safe if I make this change, I’m open to a new perspective.
Karate Chop: Even though I’ve been holding myself from making this change because I have to protect myself, I deeply love and accept myself

Eyebrow: It doesn’t feel safe to make these changes. . .
Side of Eye: I won’t know how to protect myself if I make them . .
Under Eye: I know it would be painful . . .
Under Nose: And I want to protect myself . . .
Chin: I’m not sure how to keep myself safe if I make this change . .
Collarbone: It might be really hard to keep myself safe . . .
Underarm: I don’t know if I know how to keep myself safe . . .
Top of Head: I don’t know if I can learn to keep myself safe.

Eyebrow: It feels as if everything is going to go wrong. . .
Side of Eye: I feel stuck. . .
Under Eye: I feel so torn. . .
Under Nose: I’m afraid about what comes next. . .
Chin: Everything might fall apart. . .
Collarbone: Things will never be the same again. . .
Underarm: What am I going to do?
Top of Head: This is bothering me so much

Take a deep breath and check in with yourself. How are you feeling? Rate your feeling on the 0 to 10 scale. Return to the eyebrow. Remember, you want to clear as many of these fearful emotions as possible before we move onto the positive rounds.

Eyebrow: I could lose so much
Side of Eye: Everything feels so unstable. . .
Under Eye: What will people think?
Under Nose: Am I making a big mistake?
Chin: I just want everything to stay the same.
Collarbone: This change is the worst thing ever.
Underarm: I can’t cope with this. . .
Top of Head: Even if it seems OK at first, it could go bad very quickly. . .

Eyebrow: What am I going to do?
Side of Eye: I just want to feel settled. . .
Under Eye: I just want to feel secure…
Under Nose: This isn’t wise of me. . .
Chin: I just wish I wasn’t so anxious. . .
Collarbone: I’m so worried. . .
Underarm: I just want this to end. . .
Top of Head: I just want to be at peace. . .


Has the fear dissipated any? Have your nerves settled a bit? Where does that feeling rank on a scale of 1 to 10 now? If it’s still pretty strong, then you might want to repeat the last few rounds until it comes down a bit. Then proceed to the positive rounds below.

Eyebrow: What if I could be safe and make this change?
Side of Eye: What if I have more resources than I thought?
Under Eye: Perhaps it’s not as hard as I thought . . .
Under Nose: There’s a chance I’m already doing some of it . . .
Chin: Sometimes I do feel more relaxed . . .
Collarbone: Maybe I can find ways to do that more often . . .
Underarm: I can make changes and protect myself . . .
Top of Head: I love feeling my confidence grow daily.

Eyebrow: I’ve been overreacting. . .
Side of Eye: I can be mindful and careful about this change without stressing out. . .
Under Eye: I might even enjoy it. . .
Under Nose: This might be the very thing I’ve been waiting on. . .
Chin: My life might be so much better after this. . .
Collarbone: I can relax into this. . .
Under Arm: I already feel calmer. . .
Top of Head: I can feel the pressure slipping away. . .

Eyebrow: This change might be the best thing that has ever happened to me. . .
Side of Eye: But I won’t know if I don’t see it through. . .
Under Eye: I choose to allow and accept this change with grace. . .
Under Nose: I feel so much more secure now. . .
Chin: I am safe. . .
Collarbone: I am centered and settled. . .
Under Arm: Everything is going to be alright. . .
Top of Head: Everything is just fine. . .


Take a deep breath . . . and let it go.
  

The Law of Love ( The Secret)

The Law of Love

The universe is governed by natural laws. We can fly in an airplane because aviation works in harmony with natural laws.  The laws of physics didn't change for us to be able to fly, but we found a way to work in accordance with the natural laws, and by doing so we can fly. Just as laws of physics govern aviation, electricity , and gravity there is a law that governs love. To harness the positive force of love and change my life, I must understand its law, the most powerful law in the universe - the law of attraction.

From the greatest to the smallest - the law of attraction is what holds every star in the universe and forms every atom and molecule.  The force of attraction of the sun holds the planets in our solar system, keeping them from hurtling into space.  The force pf attraction in gravity holds me and every person, animal, plant, and mineral on earth.  The force of attraction can be seen in all of nature from a flower attracting  bees or a seed attracting nutrients from the soil, to every living creature being attracted to its own species. The force of attraction operates through all the animals on the earth, fish in the sea, and birds in the sky, leading them to multiply and form herds, schools, and flocks. The force of attraction holds together the cells of my body, the materials of my house, and the water in my body, the materials of my house, and the furniture I sit on, and it holds my transportation on the road and the water in my glass.  Every object I use is held together by the force of attraction.  

Attraction is the force that draws people to other people. It draws people to form cities and nations, groups, clubs, and societies where they share common interests.  It is the force that pulls one person to science and another to cooking recipes ; it pulls people to various sports or to different styles of music, to certain animals and pets.  Attraction is the force that draws me to my favorite things and places, and it's the force that draws me to my friends and the people I love. 


The Attractive Force of Love

So what is the force of attraction?  The force of attraction is the force of love ! Attraction is love. When I feel an attraction to my favorite food, I am feeling love for that food ; without attraction , I wouldn't feel anything. All food would be the same to me. I wouldn't know what I love or what I don't love, because I wouldn't be attracted to anything.  I wouldn't be attracted to another person, a particular city, house, car, sport, job, music, clothes or anything in life, because it's through the force of attraction that I feel love ! 

The law of attraction or the law of love . . .  they are one and the same. 

The law of attraction is the law of love, and it is the all-powerful law that keeps everything in harmony, from countless galaxies to atoms. It is operating in everything and through everything in the universe.  And it is the law that is operating in my life. 

In universal terms, the law of attraction says : like attracts like.  What that means in simple terms for my life is : what I give out, I receive back. Whatever I give out in life is what I receive back in life. Whatever I give, by the law of attraction, is exactly what I attract back to myself. 

To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. 

Every action of giving creates an opposite action of receiving and what I receive is always equal to what I have given.  Whatever I give out in life, must return to me.  It is the physics and the mathematics of the universe. 

Give positivity, I receive back positivity, give negativity, I receive back negativity . Give positivity and I receive back a life full of positive things. Give negativity and I receive back a life filled with negative things.  And how do I give positivity or negativity ? Through my thoughts and my feelings ! 

In any moment, I am giving either positive thoughts or negative thoughts.  I am giving either positive feelings or negative feelings.  And whether They're positive or negative will determine what I receive back in my life. All the people, circumstances , and events that make up every moment of my life are being attracted  back to me through the thoughts and feelings I am giving out. Life doesn't just happen to me ; I receive everything in my life based on what I have given. 

Give and it will be given to you ... for by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return. 

What I give -- I receive. Give help and support to a friend when he's moving house, and most surely that help and support will return to me with lightning speed. 

Give anger to a family member who let me down, and that anger will also return to me, clothed in the circumstances of my life. 

I am creating my life with my thoughts and my feelings. Whatever I think and feel creates everything that happens to me and everything I experience in my life. If I think and feel, ' I've got a difficult and stressful day today," then I will attract  back to me all people, circumstances, and events that will make my day difficult and stressful.

If I think and feel, "Life is really good to me, " I will attract back to me all people, circumstances , and events that will make life really good for me. 

I Am A Magnet 

The law of attraction is unfailingly giving me every single thing in my life based on what I am giving out. I magnetize and receive the circumstances of wealth, health, relationships, my job, and every single event and experience in my life, based on the thoughts and feelings I am giving out. Give out positive thoughts and feelings about money, and I magnetize positive circumstances, people, and events that bring more money to me. Give out negative thoughts and feelings about money, and I magnetize negative circumstances, people, and events that cause me to have a lack of money. 

Whether humanity will consciously follow the law of love, I do not know. But that need not disturb me. The law of love will work just as the law of gravitation works whether we accept it or not. 

As surely as I think and feel, the law of attraction is responding to me. It doesn't matter whether my thoughts and feelings are good or bad, I am giving them out, and they will return to me as automatically and precisely as an echo returns the same words i send out. But this means that I can change my life by changing my thoughts and feelings. Give positive thoughts and feelings, and i will change my entire life ! 

Positive and Negative Thoughts

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