Love and Lust

 Bride-to-be question: My fiancé and I are going through marriage counseling before our wedding. The ROM marriage counselor has told my future husband that his intentions toward me are lustful and sinful and these do not exhibit his love for me. What is the difference between lust and love?

Answer: Some years ago a folk singer said, “Love is silence, lust is a roar. Love is a sacrifice; lust always wants more. Love is a giving; lust only takes. Love is a mending of hearts that lust breaks .”

The human race has taken a very precious gift of God and corrupted it in the name of love. God’s greatest gift has been perverted. True love will not harm. Often called the love chapter, 1st Corinthians 13 is an eloquent passage that often used to be read at weddings.

“Love … is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails (1st Corinthians 13:4-8).

How different marriages—and any other relationship would be—if this were put into practice by all couples. How different our world would be. So people often ask, “Why is this so hard?”

The answer is sin. The secret to avoiding the pitfalls of immorality is to live according to God’s word and to have His presence in the human heart, turning over to Him all sin through repentance. It is only through Christ that He gives us a supernatural power to live clean lives and lives that reflect the love that He desires for all.

Christ Jesus will forgive your sins, if you confess to Him.

准新娘问题：我和未婚夫正在婚礼前接受婚姻咨询。 ROM(Registry Of Marriages) 婚姻顾问告诉我未来的丈夫，他对我的意图是淫荡和罪恶的，这些并不能表现出他对我的爱。 欲望和爱情有什么区别？

 回答： 几年前，一位民谣歌手说过：“爱是沉默，情欲是咆哮。 爱是一种牺牲； 欲望总是想要更多。 爱是一种给予； 欲望只需要。 爱是修补被欲望破坏的心灵。”

 人类接受了上帝非常宝贵的礼物，并以爱的名义腐化了它。 上帝最伟大的恩赐被曲解了。 真正的爱不会造成伤害。 哥林多前书 13 章通常被称为爱情章节，是一段雄辩的段落，经常在婚礼上朗读。

 “爱……是仁慈的； 爱不嫉妒； 爱不炫耀，不张扬； 不做无礼的事，不求自己的利益，不轻易发怒，不思虑恶事。 不喜欢罪孽，只喜欢诚实； 凡事包容，凡事相信，凡事盼望，凡事忍耐。 爱永不止息（哥林多前书 13：4-8）。

 如果所有夫妇都实践这一点，婚姻以及任何其他关系将会有多么不同。 我们的世界将会多么不同。 所以人们经常会问：“为什么这么难？”

 答案是罪。 避免陷入不道德陷阱的秘诀是按照上帝的话语生活，让上帝存在于人心中，通过悔改将所有的罪孽转交给上帝。 只有通过基督，他才能赋予我们超自然的力量，让我们过上干净的生活，并反映出他对所有人的爱的生活。

 如果你向基督耶稣认罪，他就会赦免你的罪。