Monday, April 10, 2017

The EFT Silent Sea of Disappointed People

EFT Tapping Silent Sea image

"EFT offers great healing benefits."

Deepak Chopra, MD


“But it doesn’t work for me”
Many get little or no results via EFT Tapping – this need not be.

EFT Tapping Silent Sea image
The EFT Silent Sea.
(under-served and disillusioned)
 
This article is about an EFT opportunity for a swelling ocean of under-served and  disillusioned EFTers and how they can gain the results that have, so far, eluded them. A little history will help me in this effort.

History

When I founded EFT in 1995 I did so with an “Open Hand Policy” wherein people were encouraged to innovate with it, blend it with their other techniques and so on.  It was free.  No royalties or other restrictions were placed on it. This began what we now call my “Worldwide EFT Classroom” and has grown to millions of people in over 20 languages.  It has been on TV more times than I can count and over 100 books, DVDs and movies now feature EFT. Further, it has gained the attention of celebrities such as Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Jack Canfield and Louise Hay. This is the good news.

The Problem

The not-so-good-news is that it is rare to find any two people who do EFT the same.  Why? Because this proliferation of EFT has naturally been filtered through thousands (or millions) of belief systems and is being taught throughout the world by a throng of enthusiastic people, each believing in their customized version of EFT with integrity and the will to do good.  This is very confusing to the newcomer.  See About Those EFT Tapping Spin-Offs: A Candid Discussion.
Also, in these diverse teachings, you will rarely find any detailed treatment of vital, in-depth topics such as...
  • Finding Aspects within the EFT Tapping Process, 
  • Testing Your EFT Tapping Work or
  • Tapping on Specific Events - An Essential Concept Within the EFT Process. 
This results in “Surface EFT” wherein EFT tends to be aimed at the symptoms of the various issues rather than their causes.  While this can sometimes be effective, it often creates results that are temporary, partial or non-existent.  The people who experience these sub-par results represent the EFT Silent Sea of Disappointed People.

By contrast, some people get extraordinary results with Surface EFT and these results are heavily promoted on the internet and other media.  This makes it seem like EFT cures everything and does so instantly for everyone.  Or at least that’s the impression given by many EFT promoters.  I even thought along these lines myself at first.  This is because people would write to me about their “miracles” and I would publish these stories on my website.  This brought more miracle stories and the quick fix reputation of EFT began to mushroom.

But, alas, I primarily saw the successes because only a scant few wrote to me about their failures.  The under-served people remained silent while the more fortunate ones sang EFT's praises. Now, years later, I realize that a huge number of people are in this EFT Silent Sea.  They are lost, disillusioned and often say, “But EFT doesn’t work for me.”

The Solution

EFT Tapping Solution image
The solution, obviously, involves proper education with an in-depth standard for everyone to use.  That is why I created the free Gold Standard EFT Tapping Tutorial.  This hallmark of EFT excellence is only presented on my website because only in this way can every feature be properly controlled, updated and organized.  Stated differently, it cannot be adjusted or diluted by others and thus provides quality EFT for everyone.

It is freely available to anyone with access to a computer and, unlike printed books, it is filled with video examples of the important concepts.  Professionals can use it as a standard for their EFT activities (books, workshops, client sessions) and self-helpers can know that they are learning the “real deal.”  Both can access the growing library of supporting materials and become as expert as they choose.  With this essential tool, the Silent Sea will be much better served and will join the smiling evangelists within the EFT Worldwide Classroom.

So, if you are a member of the EFT Silent Sea, make sure your workshop presenter or EFT practitioner is thoroughly grounded in Gold Standard EFT and uses its principles.  Otherwise, consider going elsewhere.  Avoid those using Global Approaches in the EFT Tapping Process, or EFT Tapping Scripts or brief youtube videos.  These are likely doorways into the EFT Silent Sea.
e-hugs, Gary.

About Those EFT Tapping Spin-Offs: A Candid Discussion
         
"They all look something like EFT but underneath
they are substantially different, even from each other.
Frankly, I don't know whether to gasp or giggle at this outcome. 
Conflicts everywhere. What’s a newbie to do?"

My concerns

Tapping concerns image
EFT's proliferation is
not without its concerns.
 
EFT’s worldwide proliferation is bringing hope to humanity but, due to issues that I caused, the movement is not without its concerns.

When I introduced EFT in 1995, I had no idea it would eventually land in the hands of millions.  If I had, I would have made sure that everyone learned the method equally.  Clear teaching.  Consistent classes.  Standards for the whole movement.   This way all EFT'ers would speak the same language and innovations could build upon a common foundation.

But, alas, I dropped the ball and, as it stands, there are now hundreds of EFT spin-offs, each reflecting a different set of beliefs and preferences.  No standards whatsoever. They all look something like EFT but underneath they are substantially different, even from each other. Frankly, I don't know whether to gasp or giggle at this outcome.  Conflicts everywhere. What’s a newbie to do?

I suggest, of course, that you learn EFT here ... from the source ... where everything is detailed, consistent and absolutely free.  But, if you wish to explore the spin-offs, you will find them all over the internet.  They tend to use some form of the name EFT or its well known nickname, Tapping, in their titles.

While there are a small handful of exceptions, the vast majority of the promoters have not taken any in-depth training in EFT from the source and, as a result, they put forward "lighter" versions of EFT.

Unfortunately, I have reports that one of these spin-offs has badly traumatized people, including sending some into suicide thoughts.
Obviously, I cannot support or endorse the greater majority of the spin-offs.  I wish I could.  It would help the proper spread of EFT.
e-hugs, Gary

PS:  None of these issues exist with our newest advancement, Optimal EFT.  It is only taught through this website and thus there are no variations using the Optimal EFT name.

The Pros and Perils of EFT Tapping Scripts

Purpose

Pros and Perils of EFT Tapping Scripts
Pros & Perils of EFT Tapping Scripts
 
This article brings further perspective to those wishing to use pre-written bits of language (Tapping Scripts) that some people use hoping to better aim EFT at their issues. If you have not been exposed to Tapping Scripts, then we invite you to skip this article and move on to 'What can I expect from EFT Tapping'? so that your EFT learning process is not interrupted. Those who have been exposed to Tapping Scripts will benefit from the information provided here before moving forward.

The Pros of this approach center around convenience and the possibility to gain more benefits than what just the EFT Basic Recipe provides.  On the other hand, the Perils include possible traumatization, partial results, misrepresentation of EFT and potentially serious legal issues for those providing them.  These scripts are well meant by their promoters and are at least partially helpful for many clients.  But they are superficial in nature, possibly harmful for some, and should be described as such by their promoters.

I don't mean to be overly dramatic on this as, on balance, using Tapping scripts has produced much more good than harm (my opinion).  However, their risks and shortcomings need to be explored.  Pointers for more skillful approaches are given later in this article as well as throughout the remainder of this Tutorial.

Background

In the early days of EFT, our targets for Tapping rounds were on the general (global) side. It took me years of refining to discover that being more specific would produce much better results, especially for the more complex cases. Meanwhile, EFTers continued to experiment with global approaches, trying to make a difference for as many people as possible.  From this effort, the “Tapping script” was born.

A Tapping script involves predetermined Setup/Reminder language that is designed for the general public to use with the EFT Basic Recipe for relief on a common issue. For instance, a Tapping script for weight loss might start like this...

Even though I feel so bad about carrying all this weight
and I don't think I deserve to lose it...
 
On the surface the idea makes sense, especially to someone who hasn’t studied EFT or wants the quick relief promised by an approach like this. It appears to be convenient but the potential downside is significant and it doesn’t come anywhere near the professional results we can deliver by an individualized approach.
Mona Lisa EFT Tapping Scripts
Using Tapping scripts is like
trying to paint the Mona Lisa
with a 6 inch wide brush

Tapping scripts are often found in books and on individual websites, designed by practitioners who specialize in a particular issue. There are Tapping scripts for hundreds of issues … from trauma to phobias to OCD to everything else.   Anyone could locate a website that provides these scripts, including a diagram of EFT points and some language to use that seems to target underlying issues. The assumption here is that most people with similar issues will have the same contributing details. But that's a major error.  No two people experience the same details, or in the same way, and thus no Tapping script can reflect the exactness that is often required.  In this regard, using Tapping scripts is like trying to paint the Mona Lisa with a 6 inch wide brush. 

The Pros

The allure to these scripts involves a convenience factor wherein a ready made approach is provided that requires no customization or detective work. Just tap on the EFT points while repeating words that someone else provides.  Easy. It’s a one-size-fits-all or “EFT in a Box” approach.  Plenty of script users have reported positive results using this method and I am pleased that this simplistic approach has helped expose multitudes of people to EFT.  While many have benefited, there remain limitations and downsides.  We will cover those next.

The Perils

Those promoting Tapping scripts are attempting to "treat" people that either (1) they don’t know or (2) have issues too substantial for a mere Tapping script to handle.  Accordingly, their “clientele” will eventually include people with severe emotional or physical frailties who are enticed to “try it out.”  These tender souls should not attempt ANY healing method without the presence and guidance of a qualified health professional because abreactions and severe consequences are possible.    As EFT becomes more mainstream, it is inevitable that these issues will surface and lawsuits may emerge against those promoting Tapping scripts.
EFT Tapping Scripts can bring Lawsuits
Professional uses of EFT, such as those discussed in our Gold Standard EFT Tutorial can significantly reduce the exposure to these risks.

In addition, Tapping scripts tend to provide only partial results.  They rarely get to the roots of the issues and thus the true causes of the problem remain active underground.  It is only a matter of time before these weeds show up again and cause clients to conclude that “EFT didn’t work.”  Even worse, these surface approaches can partially clear some aspects of the problem and, in the process, allow buried traumas to emerge and bring about anxiety, nightmares, headaches and the like.  No script is able to handle this unexpected stress and thus these clients may report that “EFT made things worse.”  In reality, though, it wasn’t EFT that made things worse.  It was the erroneous use of a surface approach for a deeper problem.

So, if you are promoting Tapping scripts, please inform your customers of the limits and potential side effects of using an approach like this. Better yet, abandon those Tapping scripts and reduce that risk by moving toward the more professional, individualized EFT approaches offered on this website.  Of particular interest may be our article entitled What Should I Say During the EFT Tapping Process?

The YouTube and Internet Summits Problem

You’ll see this same Tapping script approach used in different forms on YouTube videos, as well as various internet summits and symposiums where one or more practitioners lead an anonymous public through Tapping rounds on whatever issue they choose for the day (like procrastination, deserving happiness, creating abundance, finding your soul mate, or freedom from stress). These global approaches lead people in superficial directions where results are limited and the aforementioned possibility for serious consequences is magnified.

The Solution: Getting to the Roots & Customizing the Process

As a practitioner, it is actually easier to ask the client a few questions and burrow down to the specifics than it is to recite scripts and fumble around when the client’s situation begs for more help.  The process is taught in Part II of our Gold Standard EFT Tutorial.  Even do-it-yourselfers can learn the principles and make greater progress on their issues. It will take a little practice at first but the more you use it, the better you get.  You might start with the Personal Peace Procedure, or ask a few simple questions that point toward Specific Events. Here are some questions that have served me well over the years.
  • When did you first notice the issue?
  • Does it remind you of anything in your past?
  • If you could live life over again, what person or event would you prefer to skip?
As a do-it-yourself-er, if you get stuck, a properly trained professional can help you dig up issues that you couldn't find on your own. Professionals can get additional training to find the hidden issues needed for best results.

REVIEW:

In this article you learned about Tapping Scripts in the EFT process.
  • Tapping Scripts seem to provide convenience, but are quite global in nature and do not provide an individualized approach. For this reason, they do not follow the Gold Standard EFT process.
  • Tapping Scripts and other global approaches can cause harm when used without proper guidance, so if you choose to try them, do so with caution.
  • For the best EFT education possible, avoid Tapping Scripts and other global variations, and stick to the Gold Standard principles taught in this Tutorial.
 

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