Showing posts with label confident. Show all posts
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Saturday, January 21, 2017

Know If You’re Saying Affirmations Right?

Affirmations are a great way to literally change your mind.

Through repetition, any statement becomes a belief. If you heard “you’re such a good girl” when you were growing up but your sister heard, “Why can’t you be more like your sister?” then those repeated phrases became part of your individual belief systems.

And just as you picked up negative beliefs about yourself, you can override them by using affirmations and so create new empowering beliefs.

Many people use affirmations, but many also do it wrong.

How can you tell? The best way is to check your feelings. How do you feel when you say an affirmation? Do you feel good and confident? Do you believe it? Or, do you feel like you’re telling yourself a big fat lie?

If an affirmation feels like a lie, it’s most likely because you’re making one or both of these mistakes that people make on their affirmations. But never fear, you can fix them easily:

1. The use of ‘don’t’ and ‘not’

For example, you might say “I am not afraid” or “I don’t worry about money.” The problem here is that your brain thinks in pictures. There is no visual representation of negatives – no street sign style of red slash through a word, because there is no word, only a picture. So when you say “I am not afraid” your brain can only create two images based on that statement: ‘you’ and ‘afraid’. When put together, all your brain sees is, ‘I am afraid’. The same goes for “I don’t worry.” Your brain puts together a mental image of you, and a mental image of the act of worrying and a mental image of money. That equals you, worrying about money.

Get it?

Here’s how to fix that: ONLY focus on WHAT YOU WANT. Instead of “I am afraid,” say “I am confident” or “I am relaxed.”

2. The unintended use of fear-based emotions of lack. When you say affirmations about wealth and you’re currently experiencing a state of poverty, you may believe that you are telling yourself a lie because inside, you certainly don’t feel abundant. Your affirmation is infused with fear – lack – and thus your brain creates the association between money and “not having” and any statement to the contrary gets filtered out by your belief that you don’t have money.

Here’s how to fix it: only say affirmations of GRATITUDE and pile your desires and needs right in there with the experiences, people and things you appreciate that are already in your life: for example, say “I am grateful for my health and for making a comfortable living doing what I love.” Or, “I am so thankful for my creativity and for a partner who I can share my life with.”

This does two things: first, gratitude makes you feel good; and second, you don’t feel lack when you think about things you already have, so lumping the thing you want in there, is a very powerful signal to the brain that this thing (or person or experience) is ALREADY part of your life – and then, remarkably, you’ll take the kinds of actions necessary to bring it about, with no resistance, because your brain cannot distinguish between ‘reality’ and ‘imagination’. A picture/feeling is a picture/feeling, regardless of whether it came from your senses or from your imagination.


Remember that it takes time for any “I am” statement to “stick.” It’s taken you years and years to develop a belief about yourself, and it’s not going to change overnight! But – stick with it, infuse your affirmations with positivity and gratitude, and you will soon start to see the effects of your new thinking!

Your Vibration With an Attitude of Gratitude!


Have you ever noticed that happy people show gratitude when good things come to them AND when “bad” things come to them? I have put “bad” in quotes – read on and you’ll see why!

What is True Gratitude?

True gratitude is an interesting concept. It’s easy to be grateful for life’s little goodies and delights. But feeling gratitude for struggles, pain, sorrows, screw-ups and hardships, well, that takes a lot of courage. It means that you courageously come to the realization that you are the creator of your life experience and that everything that happened to you has occurred in alignment with your vibration. It also means that you have courageously accepted that everything that happens in your life does so for a reason, and that is to help you evolve.

It’s been said that we learn more from our mistakes and failures than we do from our successes. That’s so true! But it’s more than just learning how not to do things next time! Each difficulty you face is a giant flashing neon sign that screams, “WARNING – LOW VIBRATION!” When you can appreciate this incredible gift, then you can take full ownership of your life and begin consciously creating instead of unconsciously creating.


I encourage you re-read the previous paragraph and fully take in the meaning of how wonderfully transformative adversity can be!

And then, start applying gratitude to your life. Anytime you find yourself in a difficult, emotional or seemingly hopeless situation, be thankful. You have been brought a gift of awareness – “the vibration that created this was too low, and that vibration created this situation.” It’s very liberating to know that whatever thoughts you put out there, eventually come back to you in physical manifestation – liberating because you’re no longer a victim of circumstance, you are an all-powerful creator!


Your Role as Creator Consider the word “circumstance.” The literal meaning is, “stands around” meaning that you are the center, and everything created by your thought energy and vibration, stands in an endless circle around you. So look around at your life: your health, wealth, relationships, spiritual development, fun, purpose… how’s the view? Do you like what you see? Do you like some of what you see and not other aspects? Even if you don’t like what you see, give yourself credit for being a creator – and now that you know you’re a creator, you can shift your focus to creating what you want, instead of believing that you have no power! Now, imagine yourself as the center of a golden, infinite circle of life experiences, situations and people that are positive, happy, abundant and wonderful. YOU have the power to create this infinite golden circle! Look the the Love or Above Spiritual Toolkit for help. Your guides and angels are there for you, to help point you in the right direction…

It’s really exciting to know you have this power, isn’t it? To reverse any downward trends or free yourself from any rut, you can take charge of your life by raising your vibration with gratitude. The Internet contains many wonderful ways to raise your vibration and gratitude is one of the most powerful.

Reversing Trends

Imagine for example that you’re in a struggling relationship. Emotions are high, you’re both moody and communication is difficult. Things can go from bad to worse quickly but you can reverse the downward spiral just by planting a seed of gratitude. Give thanks for becoming a more compassionate listener. Be grateful for your developing ability to see things from your partner’s perspective. Change may happen overnight, or take longer, depending on the level of emotions and yours/your partner’s vibration. The more gratitude you can project at your partner, the more you will influence his/her own vibration and create an upward spiral. Of course you also need to back up your gratitude with words and actions – but imagine how different the ‘vibe’ will be between the two of you if you start looking for the good instead of the bad!

The more you can be grateful for events and circumstances in your life (past, present and future) the more you embody the principle of “believing is seeing” which is the essence of being a conscious creator. You stop focusing on the problem, and you become grateful for the lessons. You stop fearing the future, knowing that your thoughts and your vibration creates it – and those are two things you control 100%! Instead of “things are happening to me” you’ll KNOW that you are “happening to things.”

It takes a while to get used to having this power but don’t delay, you have nothing but abundance, happiness and inner peace to lose!


Start your day with gratitude. Give thanks for the things you take for granted like the air you breathe… and always, always end your day with gratitude for the miracles that occurred, for the gifts you have received (either the delightful gifts or the lessons/signposts). If you express your heartfelt gratitude every day, you will be blown away by the results, which will not be long in coming. End the day with gratitude.

Next time you’re in a difficult situation and you can’t see anything to be grateful for,  journal about it later. Start writing about it from a perspective of gratitude. Be grateful for the adversity. Say thanks for the ugly, the frightening, the bad, the difficult, the bittersweet, the absurd… everything. We don’t always see the lessons in adversity until much later – but adopting an attitude of gratitude helps those lessons come to light much quicker. Start writing and don’t stop until you see the miracle in each difficulty. See the silver lining and the lessons. Your outer reality corresponds to your inner reality; gratitude makes the inner reality so, so much more beautiful and miraculous. That radiates outward and your outer reality will inevitably change for the better!


Adopt an attitude of gratitude today, raise your vibration and change your life!

 Control Your Emotions in Any Situation

If you’ve ever blown your top, flown off the handle, lost it or stewed about anything, you know how you felt afterward. No matter who was at fault, no matter the outcome, you are still left with a very unpleasant feeling because of the outburst. And if you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a tantrum, you aren’t left feeling exactly happy either.

If you’ve ever had a thought that brought about sadness or anger, and you kept thinking that thought, you know how you can spiral down into depression really, really fast. It can be the smallest trigger. Unchecked, the thoughts and emotions can absolutely destroy any good mood you may have been in. Over time this can become so common that it seems normal. Just ask anyone going through a divorce or grieving the loss of a loved one – after a while, crying becomes part of who you are and it’s a tough place to escape.

If you’ve ever worried about something you know how stressed and anxious it makes you feel. It can be hard to let go of the temptation to obsess about a problem like a dog gnawing on a bone. It’s so easy to let your mind just run with it – but the thoughts and emotions feed on themselves becoming stronger and stronger until they consume you.

Losing your temper, sinking into depression and worrying all contribute to an unhappy life. They cause even more stress, they ruin your health, you don’t have a moment’s peace from your emotions and your whole outlook on life can sour.


Don’t forget, too, that negative emotions have a very strong effect on your personal vibration! People pick up on it subconsciously, and you’ll have a harder time keeping friends, closing deals and functioning normally in society if your vibration is very low.

How to Control Your Emotions

Reversing a downward spiral takes a bit of effort, and a little time. But you can do it. All the effort you put into controlling emotions will give you a sunnier outlook on life and teach you that you have a choice to feel good… or not.

You can take charge and control your emotions by following these simple steps.

1. Smile

2. Meditate

3. Give it a minute and a half

4. Do what you love


Smile. There is something absolutely magical about a smile. Try this for yourself – next time you are feeling blue, or red-hot with anger, SMILE. That’s all. Just force a smile onto your face. Did you know it’s physiologically impossible to have bad feelings if you are smiling? I realize it sounds a bit silly but seriously, try it. It really works. If you wake up sad, stressed or angry, smile at yourself in the mirror first thing in the morning. Just stand there and smile at yourself. Make yourself do it even if you don’t want to. Hold that smile until it’s genuine. Hold that smile until… You know what will happen? You’re going to burst out laughing whether you want to or not! ANY time you feel bad, just smile. A smile that is genuine lights you up. It’s a physical action so in harmony with Love that it can’t help but make you feel better! 

Meditate. Meditation helps you control your emotions because it takes your focus away from them. It’s not denial – it’s a shift of focus. If you insist on being grumpy, you can always return to being grumpy when you’re done meditating. But why would you? Feeling good is so much nicer! Sometimes the best way to accomplish something is to do nothing. In this case, just ‘being’ is enough to shift your mood. You can do a quick meditation anytime you need to calm yourself. Close your eyes and focus on your breathing for as long as it takes you to calm down. Feel the inhale and exhale; count your breaths if you like. Do whatever it takes to keep your focus on your breath and off the situation at hand. That’s all there is to it! This little time out will give you time to gather your thoughts and perhaps see the situation in a different light. Say these four phrases "I'm sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you" to the spirit within you, slowly, and meditate on these ten words as you repeat them as you inhale and exhale gently.

Give it a minute and a half. When a negative emotion hits you, be aware that it takes just 90 seconds for it to pass through your system. From the time your limbic system generates the emotion to the time that chemical reaction dissipates, is a minute and a half. IF you simply feel the emotion – and DO NOT get involved in the thought that generated it by repeating “I feel (angry, sad, etc.)” - it will pass and you’ll regain your equilibrium. Don’t say “I AM (angry, sad, etc.).” You are not your emotions! Try that, next time you have a sad or upsetting thought. Repeat to yourself how you are feeling but don’t allow yourself to stray from that focus. Don’t think about what made you upset. Feel the feeling and let it go.


Pretty cool stuff! Of course you want to hop on the bus of happy thoughts – you can never get too much of feeling good! Just avoid the ones that make you feel bad. Let the feeling pass and turn your thoughts to something more pleasing.

Do what you love! When you’re immersed in some activity you’re passionate about, and you’re really focused on what you’re doing, you can’t feel bad. You just can’t. Doing what you love uplifts you in so many ways! Do it, and do it often. You’ll be generally happier and more able to cope with life’s monkey wrenches when your life is meaningful and when you are doing what you love.


Emotions can rule your life or you can control them. It’s worthwhile learning to control them, just so you can respond rationally in tough situations, and not allow your thoughts to drag you down into despair and depression. It’s a much lovelier life when you’re in control!

Are you satisfied with your ability to attract or manifest?

Seminars. Classes. Hatha Yoga. Transcendental Meditation. Article after article. Hours of listening to a personal growth guru talk, talk, and talk.

Chances are you’ve tried one of these or maybe even all of them.

Maybe they’ve helped. You’ve attracted some of the things you want in life, but if you’re like 99% of the rest of the world you have plenty more goals you want to accomplish, tons more wealth to be created and a lot more joy to be had.

Perhaps you’ve invested your money, but are waiting on returns.

Maybe you have a car, but not the one you wanted.

Maybe you’ve got a great job, but it’s not your dream career.

Perhaps your healthy, but you’re not as fit as you want to be.

In other words, you’re stuck in a manifesting rut. You’ve hit a level that may be above average, but it is not nearly where you want to be or know you can be.

The reason for this is not because you haven’t worked hard enough or you haven’t attended enough seminars, and it’s not that you haven’t tried enough things.

It’s because you haven’t tried raising your vibration.


I’ll say that again because it’s so important. You haven’t tried raising your vibration. The sole reason why you are where you are is because you’re vibrating at the average human level of 207 on a scale that reaches 1000.

Even at the tiniest level, Quantum Mechanics has discovered that atoms and sub-atoms are in fact composed of packets of energy. Now, leading research on human consciousness is showing that this energy vibrates on a Scale.

The Vibration Scale operates on the discovery that each human emotion has a vibration in the exact same way that matter does.

Heavy emotions like Fear, Anger or Shame vibrate at low frequencies. But feelings like Love, Joy and Peace vibrate at high, uplifting frequencies.

One of the most interesting things discovered about energy is that your energetic frequency can affect the energetic frequencies of those around you. For example, one person operating at a level of 500, which is Love, can lift 750,000 other people to the level above 200.


Further supporting evidence, done by many other researchers and Universities, shows that it’s not just other people you can affect with your vibration… but also other objects and even your reality!

DID YOU KNOW Your Energetic Frequency Influences the Reality Around You?



Numerous other studies have shown that a conscious or sentient being, like a person, can change what happens to another object by affecting that object’s energy. Dr. William Braud’s research is one such study with very compelling evidence.

Dr. Braud and his colleagues at the Mind Science Foundation in San Antonio designed and conducted some of the most ingenious and rigorous “bio-PK” experiments (“Bio-PK” is the study of how psychokinesis affects other biological organisms).


One of Dr. Braud’s many experiments showed that people could slow down the rate that red blood cells die in a lab dish. Though the effect was small, the results proved significant beyond chance and were replicable by other scientists. This proved that our thoughts and energy directly affects the things around us!

A Simple Shift in Your Energetic Frequency Can Have an Instant and

Dramatic Impact On EVERY Aspect of Your Life

You see, it’s not just other biological organisms that people’s energetic frequency can affect. People can also positively or negatively affect the energy of objects. A stone in the room of a negative person for example, vibrates lower on the Scale than say a stone that is in the room of a Zen Master.


Another fascinating research study that shows evidence of people affecting the energy of objects, is the famous one done by Dr. Masaru Emoto.


In his spectacular study, Dr. Emoto took water and exposed it to different objects and environments. What he did was project a thought onto a glass of water, or put the water next to a specific object. Then the water was frozen and the resulting water crystals were observed under the microscope.

Amazingly, when a glass of water had a piece of paper with a written word of high energetic frequency like “Love” stuck to it, the water crystals formed beautiful patterns that were pure in color and in perfect symmetry.

Your life is the same.

After all, your body is made up of mostly water. It is involved in every bodily function, and makes up 70- 75% of your total body weight. Your thoughts are having a direct influence on your body. This we know, but the larger picture is that your thoughts are having a direct influence on everything in your life. What do you think happens to you when your thoughts and energy are primarily set to those of Love or Above?

Yes, your vibrational frequency will attract emotions and physical manifestations of things that vibrate at the same frequency.

If your energetic frequency is low, you’ll be attracting into your life disruption and difficulties.

But if you shift your energetic frequency to higher levels, you’ll start attracting a life that serves you, one aligned with your true, whole self. Life will suddenly become so much easier—and you—so much happier.


Now, while we still don’t have the specifics of how this works, the important thing is that the evidence clearly shows that it does work. Just knowing how to shift your energetic frequency to harness this power into your life is what really matters.



Here’s a shocking fact. If Enlightenment is at a level of 1,000 The average human only vibrates at 20% of that.

Vibrating at 20% is just the beginning. Like I said earlier, this is the level where a person reaches an awareness that their thoughts and actions influence their reality. However, there is still much more to go before you can become an instant attractor of your desires.

Historical figure like Mother Theresa, Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., and Abraham Lincoln operate at 70%

The most important level of consciousness is at the 500 level, which I have called “Living from Love or Above”. This includes vibrating from Love (50%), Peace & Compassion (60%) and everything else above towards higher consciousness. Once a person opens their awareness to this level, they’ll begin to experience an entirely different life.

Does it come as a surprise to you then, that the average human being is vibrating at 20% of their full potential? Is it any surprise that millions of people around the world don’t know how to get out of feeling stressed, anxious, sad, and fearful… leaving them unable to move forward toward truth and fulfillment?

The Choice Is Yours: Do You Want To Become
A Magnet For Your Desires Today?

The real truth is, it’s so easy for anyone to change their lives if they simply choose to connect to their true purpose and raise their vibrational frequency. Believe me, I’ve done over 20,000 
personal consultations, and I’ve seen some spectacular changes in people when they simply choose to vibrate at higher frequencies.

That’s why it’s my highest joy to help people raise their vibrational frequency to “Love or Above”. I’m really happy that you’re here with me today, and I’m as excited to be able to reach out to you as you are excited to discover how you can easily shift your energetic frequency.


Shifting to vibrations of Love , Joy, Peace & Compassion, Enlightenment and beyond isn’t just an exercise for the mind, it is a total life shift that engages the HEART and the SPIRIT.

Monday, January 9, 2017

BEAUTIFUL POSITIVE WORDS A TO Z

Most beautiful positive words for A letter

ADORABLE, ABUNDANCE, APPRECIATION, AMAZING, AWESOME, AWESOMENESS, ALOHA, ADORE, ANGELIC, APPRECIATIVE JOY, ASTOUNDING, ALIVENESS

Most beautiful positive words for B letter

BEATIFY, BEATITUDE, BELOVED, BLESS – BLESSING – BLESSED, BLISS – BLISSFULNESS – BLISSFUL, BLOOM, BLOSSOM, BEAUTY – BEAUTIFUL – BEAUTIFULLY, BELONG – BELONGING, BRILLIANCE – BRILLIANT, BLISS ON TAP, BEYOND FABULOUS, BRIGHT, BRIGHTNESS, BLASTING, BLAZING, BREATHTAKING, BUBBLING, BLISSCIPLINE, BUYANCY, BREEZINESS, BRIO

Most beautiful positive words for C letter

CARE – CARING, CALM, CREATE, CREATIVE – CREATIVITY – CREATIVENESS , CHARM – CHARMING – CHARMER, CUDDLE – CUDDLING, CANDOR, CAREFULNESS, CHEERFUL – CHEERFULNESS, CLARITY, COMPASSION – COMPASSIONATE, CONSCIOUSNESS, CONTENT – CONTENTMENT, COOL, CLEAR HEADED, CENTERED, CLOSENESS, COMPANIONSHIP, CONNECT – CONNECTED – CONNECTION – CONNECTEDNESS, CUTE, CHARISMA – CHARISMATIC, CHEERFUL WILLINGNESS, CHAMPION, CHAMP’

Most beautiful positive words for D letter

DELICATE, DELICIOUS – DELICIOUSNESS, DREAM – DREAMY, DELIGHT – DELIGHTED – DELIGHTFUL, DESIRE, DEVOTION, DIVINE, DAZZLED, DISNEY, DANDY

Most beautiful positive words for E letter

ENLIGHTENMENT, ETERNAL, EMPOWER – EMPOWERING – EMPOWERED, ENCHANTED, ENLIVENED, EXTRAORDINARY, EQUANIMITY, EASE-OF-MIND, EXCITED ANTICIPATION, ELECTRIC, EFFORTLESSNESS

Most beautiful positive words for F letter

FANTASTIC, FEEL GOOD – FEELING GOOD, FLOW – FLOWING, FABULOUS, FAIR, FAITH, FAITHFUL, FAME, FAVORITE, FAIRNESS, FAMILY, FIDELITY, FLEXIBILITY, FOCUS, FLOURISH, FORGIVE – FORGIVING – FORGIVENESS, FORTITUDE, FREE – FREEDOM, FRUGALITY, FUN, FUTURE, FRIEND – FRIENDLY – FRIENDSHIP – FRIENDLINESS, FASCINATE – FASCINATED, FULFILL – FULFILLED, FOOD, FEISTY – FEISTINESS, FESTIVE, FEASIBLE, FINE, FEARLESS, FESTIVE – FESTIVENESS, FIT, FANTABULOUS, FREECYCLE, FUNERIFIC, FUNOLOGY {the science of having fun}, FLAWLESS

Most beautiful positive words for G letter

GLOW, GIFT, GOODNESS, GRACE, GRATITUDE, GLORY, GODLINESS, GOOD-FEELING, GROOVY, GIDDY, GLAD, GLAMOR, GIGGLING, GODDESS, GORGEOUS – GORGEOUSNESS, GRANDIOSITY

Most beautiful positive words for H letter

HOPEFULNESS, HAPPINESS, HARMONY, HOLY – HOLINESS, HEAVENLY, HALO, HEARTFELT, HEARTWARMING, HAPPY HEARTED, HIGH-SPIRITEDNESS

Most beautiful positive words for I letter

INCOMPARABLE, INVINCIBLE, INFINITE, INFINITY

Most beautiful positive words for J letter

JOYFUL, JUBILANT, JESUS ( Yehovah Is Saviour)

Most beautiful positive words for K letter

KIND-HEART, KISS, KITTENS

Most beautiful positive words for L letter

LUXURY, LIBERTY, LIGHT, LOVING-KINDNESS, LIVELY, LIFE OF THE PARTY, LOVELY, LOVING ACCEPTANCE, LIGHTWORKER

Most beautiful positive words for M letter

MAGNIFICENT, MAJESTY, MARVELOUS, MIRACLE, MAGIC, MAKING A DIFFERENCE, MASTERY

Most beautiful positive words for N letter

NOBLE, NURTURING – NURTURE, NON-RESISTANCE – NON-RESISTANT, NOURISH – NOURISHMENT, NAMASTE

Most beautiful positive words for O letter

OPENNESS, OPEN HEARTED, OM MANI PADME HUM, ONENESS

Most beautiful positive words for P letter

PEACE – PACIFY, PARADISE – PARADISIAC, PASSION, PURE, PROSPERITY, PLAYFUL – PLAYFULNESS, PICK-ME-UP, PUPPIES, PRETTY, PRECIOUS, POSIRIPPLE, PRICELESS, PERMALICIOUS

Most beautiful positive words for Q letter

QUALITY, QUIETNESS

Most beautiful positive words for R letter

RADIANT, REFRESHED, RELAXED, RELIEF, RELIEVE – RELIEVED, REMARKABLE, RESOURCEFULNESS, RAPTURE, RELATEDNESS

Most beautiful positive words for S letter

SMILE – SMILING, SOULMATE, SOUL – SOULFUL, SACRED, SAFE, SECURED, SUSTAINED, SIMPLICITY, SPIRIT, SERENE – SERENITY, SELF-LOVE, SELF-KINDNESS, SPACIOUS, SUNSHINE, SPARKLES, SWEET – SWEETNESS, SWEETHEART, SAVOUR, STUPENDUOS, SWAGGY, SPLENDID, SPECTACULAR, SPECIAL, SERENDIPITY, SHINE – SHINING, SUBLIME, SUNNINESS

Most beautiful positive words for T letter

TENDER

Most beautiful positive words for U letter

UNIFICATION, UNIQUE, ULTIMATE, UNITY, UNIFICATION OF MIND

Most beautiful positive words for V letter

VITALITY, VULNERABILITY – VULNERABLE

Most beautiful positive words for W letter

WORTH – WORTHY – WORTHINESS, WEALTH, WARM – WARMTH, WELCOME, WILL- WILLING – WILLINGNESS , WISDOM, WONDERFUL, WELL-BEING, WHOLEHEARTEDNESS, WOW, WONDER, WELL, WELLNESS, WELFARE, WHOLE

Most beautiful positive words for X letter

XO 
{- hugs and kisses Actually, it's kiss (X) and hug (O)}

Most beautiful positive words for Y letter

YOUNG- AT-HEART, YIPPEE, YAY { (informal) an exclamation indicating approval, congratulation, or triumph.}, YUMMY

Most beautiful positive words for Z letter

ZANY


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Try this: use powerful positive words to change your situation, not to describe it.
First, the next time anyone asks, "How are you?", respond with strength. Give them an energetic, enthusiastic, "Great!" or "Terrific!"

Let's  do it !with a smile on your face, and you are likely to get one back. ☺☺☺👍👌

Second, you will likely feel a physical response of increased energy. 

Third, your words will send a message to your mind that will be consistent with feeling Great! or Terrific!

To see the results, you have to do this often and with sincere enthusiasm (not robotically). When you do, your subconscious mind will begin to act on what you are saying and begin to design your reality to be consistent with your thoughts and words. I command you ,  "Do or do not. There is no try."

Speaking with power also creates a sense of accountability and commitment to get the best from yourself and others. Your challenge is to consciously avoid using words that are power killers. These words sap energy and commitment from your interactions, and ultimately, your actions.

First, eliminate these words from your vocabulary:

1.     I can't

2.     If

3.     Doubt

4.     Try

5.     I don't think

6.     I don't have the time

7.     Maybe

8.     I'm afraid of

9.     I don't believe


10.     It's impossible.

Omitting these words is not enough. A sports team needs more than just a good defense to win; it also needs a powerful offense. So, mobilize your own offensive assault with the words you choose.

Build positive mental connections and commitment by using these power builders:

1.     I can

2.     I will

3.     Expect the best

4.     Commit

5.     I know

6.     I will make the time

7.     Positively

8.     I am confident

9.     I do believe

10.     All things are possible.


The power of your actions is preceded by the power of your words. Speak with power to bring out the best in yourself and others.

Tuesday, December 6, 2016

How To Change Your Life At Core Level

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Just how does the conscious, subconscious, and unconscious mind work? And what is the difference between them?

Here we’ll have a look at how the three minds – conscious, subconscious, and unconscious – work together to create your reality … and how to use that knowledge to change your habits and create a happier, more peaceful and confident you.

 A Walk Through the Human Mind 

The concept of three levels of mind is nothing new. Sigmund Freud, the famous Austrian psychologist was probably the first to popularize it into mainstream society as we know it today. Even though his theories have subsequently been widely disputed in Psychology circles because they are very hard to scientifically prove, Freud nonetheless created a useful model of the mind, which he separated into 3 tiers or sections – the conscious mind or ego, the preconscious, and the unconscious mind.
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The best way I have found to illustrate the concept of the three minds is by using a triangle. If you imagine at the very tip of the triangle is your conscious mind. It occupies only a small portion of space at the top, a bit like an iceberg where only a fraction of it is showing above the water. It probably represents about 10% of your brain capacity.

Below this is a slightly larger section that Freud called the preconscious, or what some refer to as the subconscious. It is much larger than the conscious mind and accounts for around 50-60% of your brain capabilities.

The section below this is the unconscious mind. It occupies the whole width of the base of the triangle and fills out the other 30-40% of the triangle. It is vast and deep and largely inaccessible to conscious thought, a bit like the dark depths of the ocean.

 How They Work Together 

Your conscious mind is what most people associate with who you are, because that is where most people live day to day. But it’s by no means where all the action takes place.

Your conscious mind is a bit like the captain of a ship standing on the bridge giving out orders. In reality it’s the crew in the engine room below deck (the subconscious and the deeper unconscious) that carry out the orders. The captain may be in charge of the ship and give the orders but its the crew that actually guides the ship, all according to what training they had been given over the years to best do so.

The conscious mind communicates to the outside world and the inner self through speech, pictures, writing, physical movement, and thought.

The subconscious mind, on the other hand, is in charge of our recent memories, and is in continuous contact with the resources of the unconscious mind.

The unconscious mind is the storehouse of all memories and past experiences, both those that have been repressed through trauma and those that have simply been consciously forgotten and no longer important to us. It’s from these memories and experiences that our beliefs, habits, and behaviors are formed.

The unconscious constantly communicates with the conscious mind via our subconscious, and is what provides us with the meaning to all our interactions with the world, as filtered through your beliefs and habits. It communicates through feelings, emotions, imagination, sensations, and dreams.

 The Mind in Action 

The following analogy may help to clarify the concept of how the three minds work a little more.

If you imagine you mind is like a computer …

Your conscious mind is best represented by the keyboard and monitor. Data is inputted on the keyboard and the results are thrown up on the monitor screen. That is how your conscious mind works – information is taken in via some outside (or internal) stimulus from your environment and the results are thrown up instantaneously into your consciousness.

Your subconscious is like the RAM in your computer. For those who don’t know, RAM is the place in a computer where programs and data that are currently in use are kept so they can easily be reached quickly by the computer processor. It is much faster than other types of memory, such as the hard disk or CD-ROM.

Your subconscious works in the same way. Any recent memories are stored there for quick recall when needed, such as what your telephone number is or the name of a person you just met. It also holds your current programs that you run every day, such as your current recurring thoughts, behavior patterns, habits, and feelings.

Your unconscious is like the hard disk drive in your computer. It is the long term storage place for all your memories and programs that have been installed since birth.

Your unconscious mind (and ultimately your subconscious mind) then uses these programs to make sense of all the data you receive from the world and to keep you safe and ensure your survival. The logic of these two minds is that if it worked in the past and you survived, then it will help you get through similar situations by the same means, no matter how misguided, painful, and unhelpful the results may be to you personally in the outside world.

The Journey Begins

As mentioned, these sections and their functions have been hotly debated over the years by many other psychologists, philosophers, and scientists, because it’s very hard to empirically prove they exist. Despite all this, I still find it a great analogy to use, and at the end of the day if it works for you and makes sense, then that’s all that matters.

The Conscious Mind

If you ask most people to define what the conscious mind does you’ll get varying answers. Some say what distinguishes it from the subconscious (or even the unconscious) is awareness.

But to say the subconscious is unaware is plain wrong. It has been well documented that you can be influenced by your surroundings or what people say even when your conscious mind is totally out of it, such as when you’re under anesthetic or asleep. And what about when you drive to some destination but when you get there you have no memory of the trip. In those situations it’s your subconscious that stays aware and performs the necessary functions.

Another argument people put forth is that the conscious mind is where you do all your thinking and logical reasoning. But that too doesn’t entirely distinguish it from your subconscious or unconscious. Your unconscious minds are the storage place of all your memories, emotions and habits and are in fact very good at reasoning and logic.

Take, for example, when you were a baby. Your conscious mind had not yet developed enough to test and measure all the information from your environment, so at this age it sits in the background and it’s your subconscious and unconscious that does all the data gathering and reasoning – identifying that the bottle or nipple is a source of food, that crying gets you attention, that cuddles from mum means you are safe. In this stage it’s your other two minds hard at work forming logical patterns of association (habits, beliefs, and emotions) that help you to survive.

By far the best explanation that I have found for the two most powerful functions your fully developed conscious mind can do that the other two can’t is …

Its ability to direct your focus.
Its ability to imagine that which is not real
It’s these two very important abilities that can change your life. Lets take a quick look at each …

Directing Your Focus

While your subconscious mind has a much stronger sense of awareness of your surroundings than your conscious mind (some suggest it’s where your “sixth sense” comes from) and is always switched on, even when asleep, it really does just obey orders from your conscious mind. If all you do is focus your conscious thoughts continually on negative things, then your subconscious will obediently deliver the feelings, emotions, and memories that you have associated with that type of thinking. And because those feelings will become your reality, you can then be caught up in a never ending loop of negativity, fear, and anxiety, constantly looking for the bad in every situation.

Take, for example, when you are laying in bed late at night and hear something go “bump” in the night. If you let your thoughts and imagination wander to all the horrible things that might happen, then your subconscious will throw up the feelings, emotions, and memories of past events that you’ve associated with those thoughts. Its your subconscious’s way of protecting you and preparing you for fight or flight in those situations.

On the other hand, if you consciously tell yourself and direct your focus to more rational, calming thoughts, then the feelings will subside or disappear.

Some people find it quite easy and natural to direct their thoughts towards a more positive outlook on life and every situation. It really depends on the type of programming your subconscious and unconscious has had since birth. For example – do you sway towards pessimism or optimism, negative thinking or positive thinking, happiness or anger, or somewhere in between? Identifying which way you sway is the start to improving it.

This ability of your conscious mind to direct your attention and awareness is one of the most important powers you have, and to create change in your life you must learn to control what you consciously focus on.

But how do you do that? The actual skill of directing your focus is quite simple … all it comes down to is making a choice. Deciding how you will think and what thoughts you will allow into your mind will determine your destiny. It can literally be used for good or evil, for constructive or destructive means.

Our mental thoughts are probably the only one true freedom we have in this world that we can actually control. A man can be physically trapped in prison in absolute inhumane conditions and yet still be free in his own mind – Victor Frankl and Nelson Mandela (among many others) are testament to that fact. We alone can choose how we are going to respond to our experiences in life.

Using Your Imagination

The other important ability of the conscious mind is the use of visualization. Your mind can literally imagine something that is totally new and unique – something you’ve never physically experienced before. By contrast, your subconscious can only offer versions of what memories it has stored of your past experiences.

But the really neat trick is that the subconscious can’t distinguish between that which the conscious mind imagines and that which is real, so whatever is brought up by conscious imagination and intently focused on, also brings up all the emotions and feelings that are associated with that image in your mind for you to experience.

For example, if you’ve ever day dreamed before about winning lotto, or perhaps looked forward to being with that someone special you love, then you would have felt the joy that those thoughts had conjured up in your head, even though you knew intellectually it wasn’t physically happening at that very moment. But your subconscious thought it was happening to you, and that’s why it offered those feelings and emotions it associated with those thoughts. It truly is a marvelous gift we have!

Visualization can be used to create some amazing results. In one sporting study three groups of people were tested on their ability to improve their free throw accuracy in basketball. They were tested at the start of the experiment and at the end.

One group was instructed to physically practice free throws for 20 days in a row. The second group was not allowed to train at all. The third group spent 20 minutes a day getting into a relaxed state and only imagining themselves performing the free throws. They were also taught that if they missed in their minds, to adjust slightly and see themselves getting it the next time.

At the end of the experiment the results were incredible. The group that physically practiced each day improved their score by 24%. The second group who didn’t practice understandably didn’t improve at all. But the third group, who had only visualized doing it, actually improved their score by an amazing 23% – nearly as much as group one! Don’t under estimate the power of the conscious mind.


The Subconscious Mind

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Your subconscious is the work desk of your mind. Controlling and directing it is the key to personal change.

As I said earlier, your subconscious is a bit like the RAM in your computer. (For those who don’t know – RAM is the term used for the short term memory in a computer, and its job is to hold the programs and data that are currently in use so they can be reached quickly and easily by the computer processor. It’s a lot faster than the other types of memory, such as the hard disk or CD-ROM.)

Your subconscious works in a similar way to computer RAM. It holds short term memory and current daily used programs.

The Role of the Subconscious

Apart from short term memory, the subconscious also plays an important role in our day to day functioning.

It works hard at ensuring you have everything you need for quick recall and access to when you need it. Things like –

1. Memories – such as what your telephone number is, how to drive a car without having to consciously think about it, what you need to get from the shop on the way home etc.

2. Current programs you run daily, such as behaviors, habits, mood.

3. Filters (such as beliefs and values) to run information through to test their validity according to your perception of the world.

4. Sensations taken in via your 5 senses and what it means to you.

If it doesn’t happen to have a filter or reference point in its RAM for some bits of information that come in, then it has a direct line to the storage place of the mind – the unconscious. It will ask the unconscious to pull out the programs that it best associates with the incoming data to help make sense of it all.

The subconscious is also constantly at work, staying a lot more aware of your surroundings than you realize. In fact, according to the NLP communication model we are assaulted with over 2 million bits if data every second. If your conscious mind had to deal with all that you would very quickly become overwhelmed and not be able to get anything done.

Instead, your subconscious filters out all the unnecessary information and delivers only that which is needed at the time, around 7 chunks of information. It does all this behind the scenes so you can perform your daily work uninhibited. And it does this as logically as it can, based on the programs it has access to in your unconscious.

And as discussed earlier in the article, it then communicates all the results into consciousness via emotions, feelings, sensations and reflexes, images and dreams. It doesn’t communicate in words.

The link into the Subconscious

One of the truly great things about the subconscious (and one which we need to take advantage of to affect change) is … it obeys orders!

People often erroneously think that the subconscious is in charge and you are merely at its mercy. In fact it’s the complete opposite. Your conscious mind gives it the direction, the environment if you like, for which it operates in. The subconscious will only deliver the emotions and feelings of what you continuously think about.

Now I’m not saying it’s as easy as changing what you think of in one moment and your entire life will be changed. In most cases your default programs have too much energy attached to them to change instantaneously. It can be done though – such as after a massive life altering event or if enough pain is associated with the old behavior – but without a major shift like that it is likely the old programs will reemerge.

The Unconscious Mind

The unconscious mind is very similar to the subconscious mind in that it also deals with memories. But there is a difference between the two.

If you remember the symbol of the triangle I used to describe the levels of the human mind, then you’ll remember that the unconscious sits a layer deeper in the mind under the subconscious. Although the subconscious and unconscious have direct links to each other and deal with similar things, the unconscious mind is really the cellar, the underground library if you like, of all your memories, habits, and behaviors. It is the storehouse of all your deep seated emotions that have been programmed since birth.

If you want significant change at a core level, then this is the place to work on … but it’s not easy to get to!

Unconscious versus Subconscious – What’s the difference?

There’s been plenty of debate over what is the correct term – subconscious or unconscious.

Unconscious is the term usually preferred by Psychologists and Psychiatrists to refer to the thoughts we have that are “out of reach” of our consciousness. It shouldn’t be confused with the medical term for unconscious, which basically means knocked out or anesthetized, although both definitions do have similar qualities.

In simple terms, the unconscious is the storage place for all our memories that have been repressed or which we don’t wish to recall. A traumatic event in our childhood that has been blocked out is an example, but it doesn’t have to be so serious as this. It could be something very distant like what you had for lunch on your first day of school or what the name was of the childhood friend you played with a couple of times.

It’s a memory that we can’t pull out at our choosing. It’s there, but we can’t remember it no matter how hard we try. Certain psychoanalytical methods can bring back these memories (such as hypnosis) or it can be triggered by a particular event (a scent, a familiar place etc).

The important point to remember here, is that we cannot, by choice, remember anything in our unconscious without some special event or technique. This is the unconscious.

The subconscious, on the other hand, is almost the same, but the major difference is we can choose to remember. The memories are closer to the surface and more easily accessible with a little focus.

For example, if I were to ask you to remember what your phone number is, then you could easily bring that into conscious thought. The interesting thing is that before I asked you to recall it, you had no conscious thought of it at all. It was stored in your subconscious available for ready recall when needed, a bit like RAM in a computer because it’s something that you require quite regularly to remember.

If, however, it wasn’t important to you to recall your phone number that often then it may be stored a bit deeper, and as a result when you’re asked for your phone number on the spot you might struggle to remember it.

The Role of the Unconscious

In many respects the unconscious deals with all the same tasks as the subconscious – memory, habits, feelings, emotions, and behaviors. The difference between the two minds, however, is that the unconscious is the source of all these programs that your subconscious uses

It is the place where all your memories and experiences since birth have been stored. Its from these memories that your beliefs, habits, and behaviors are formed and reinforced over time.

How to Change Your Life

If you want to affect change in your life at a core level then you will have to work on your programs/data/limiting beliefs that are held in the unconscious mind. There are specialized ways to make that happen, and if you’ve read the entire related series of these articles then you’ll know that the place to start doing that is in the conscious mind.

By continuously being in charge of your own thoughts through directing your focus and using visualization, you can influence what programs the subconscious mind constantly runs. Do this often enough (and with enough emotional energy) then it will start to reprogram your unconscious internal representation and belief system.

And when that happens you’ll experience change on a very deep level!

It’s very much a top down approach. After all, it’s how your habits, behaviors and beliefs were created in the first place. Give it a try and see how it works for you. And remember, enjoy the journey!