¹⁰ Stop Worrying! God Will Fix lt For You ( 10 of 15 )

  Stop Worrying! God Will Fix lt For You ( 10 of 15 ) 

Tip 10. Stop pretending you’re happy when you’re not.

Quartz writer Susanna Cornelius, in her article Being told to feel happy is making us miserable details the destructive effects of trying to abide by the social pressures that make us feel like we need to feel happy, all the time:

{ “Depression rates are higher in countries that place a premium on happiness,” says social psychologist Brock Bastian. “Rather than being the by-product of a life well-lived, feeling happy has become a goal in itself.

Smiling faces beam at us from social media and happiness gurus flog their latest emotional quick fixes, reinforcing the message that we should aim to maximize our positive emotions and avoid our negative ones. ~ Susanna Cornelius, Quartz }

“Happiness as a goal” is a fallacy, and is at odds with how the Bible describes the path to calmness and joy. Instead of forcing ourselves to smile, God wants us to be honest with everything going on inside of us – the good, bad and the ugly.

¹ Oh, what joy for those whose disobedience is forgiven, whose sin is put out of sight! ² Yes, what joy for those whose record the LORD has cleared of guilt, whose lives are lived in complete honesty! ~ Psalm 32:1-2 

It may feel counterintuitive to us who live in this culture of consumption, but taking the time to identify our sins so we can experience mercy from God is the only true way to lasting happiness. Guilt is an incredible amplifier of anxiety; clearing it up will pave the way to joy and de-stressing. 

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别再担心了！上帝会帮你解决（15条建议中的第10条）

建议10：别再假装快乐了。

Quartz撰稿人苏珊娜·科尼利厄斯在她的文章《被告知要感到快乐反而让我们痛苦》中详细描述了试图顺应社会压力（让我们觉得需要时刻保持快乐）所带来的破坏性影响：

{社会心理学家布罗克·巴斯蒂安说：“在那些过分强调幸福的国家，抑郁症发病率更高。”} “快乐不再是美好生活的副产品，反而成了追求的目标本身。

社交媒体上到处都是笑脸，各种幸福大师兜售着最新的情绪速成法，不断强化着这样的信息：我们应该追求最大化积极情绪，避免消极情绪。——苏珊娜·科尼利厄斯，《石英》杂志

“把快乐当作目标”是一种谬论，与圣经中关于通往平静和喜乐的道路的描述背道而驰。上帝希望我们坦诚面对内心的一切——好的、坏的、丑陋的，而不是强迫自己微笑。

¹ 蒙赦免罪孽、罪孽被除去的人有福了！² 耶和华赦免罪孽、行事正直的人有福了！——诗篇 32:1-2

对于生活在消费文化中的我们来说，这或许有些反直觉，但花时间去认识自己的内心，或许能带来真正的快乐。 悔改罪过，才能蒙受神的怜悯，这是通往持久幸福的唯一真正途径。内疚感会极大地加剧焦虑；消除内疚感将为喜乐和减压铺平道路。