Where stress really comes from, and how to live a happier and healthier life.
Stress does not stem from external circumstances or a primordial fight-or-flight response to danger. Rather, it has to do with how one perceives one's circumstances. Look at some common challenges today and offers numerous insights into how to overcome them and grow healthier. This book is available at Singapore National Library Board's public libraries, call number : English section 155.9042 BER. (author Andrew Bernstein)
Just as a physical contraction produces physical pain, a mental contraction produces mental pain. This stress tells you there has been a disruption in your subconscious thought process and your mind has contracted away from the flow of life.
Stress is not a bad thing, just as pain is not a bad thing. They are both important signals.
The more stress you have in your life, the more contracted beliefs you have in your subconscious mind (about money, success, love, God, salvation, friendship, etc). We have been taught since young that different emotional states are produced by different circumstances, but the truth is, your emotions are produced by your beliefs.
That is why different people can be exposed to the exact same circumstances and have very different experiences. One person might see a situation as dangerous, which leads to a strong contraction and stress. Another person, seeing it as an opportunity, would be unfazed, and yet another person might even find it enjoyable.
When you see people who remain calm during so-called stressful situations, you might wonder what they are doing that you are not. But the real question to ask is : What are you doing that they are not ? And the answer is : You are having certain counter-factual thoughts.
A stress-free (is not possible in reality) life is not about trying to stay calm. Calm is your baseline state, and you contract away from it because of false beliefs. From this perspective, the opposite of stress is not relaxation - it is education in the truth, releasing the contractions by having insights.
Releasing contracted thoughts through insight is completely natural. You shall know the TRUTH and the TRUTH shall set you free again. Truth shall be your new calm baseline. And the more directly you can pinpoint the core of the contraction in your mind, the more powerful the insight will be.
I AM THE WAY< THE TRUTH< AND THE LIFE.